Am I Attractive?

Society has all these standards on outward attractiveness, perfect personalities, and “relationship goals.”

Without noticing, we often become consumed by these things…always concerned about what we look like, if the way we are acting is different than everyone else, wondering why we don’t have those “relationship goals” or whatever other “goals" there are out there.

So I’m here to tell you that these things aren’t true. 

Shocker, right?

We all have an idea of our “perfect self” and other people’s “perfect self.” 

We all have an idea of what we think makes us attractive, and what we think makes others attractive (romantically and non-romantically). 

But you see, we all have different views. We all have different ideas and different standards. 

As a 16 year old girl who is daily trying to live her life for Christ, I know when I am most unattractive in the non-physical sense. 

I also can pinpoint what I find attractive and unattractive in other people..we all can in some way or another. 

Women who respect themselves, recognize inner beauty and have humble confidence….that is the kind of woman I find attractive. That is the kind of woman I want to be. 

Men who are humble, kind, and spiritually strong are the kind of men that most godly women would find attractive. 

But remaining gender neutral, what is most attractive is someone who 

*Respects themselves and others

*Is humble and submissive

*Is sincere

*Is even tempered

*Is hard working

*Is honest

*Is pursuing purity

*Encourages others

*Speaks kind words

*Always has their arms reached out to help others

*Has a firm foundation in Christ

*Is compassionate

*Whose prayers and worship are sincere

And most importantly, someone who 

*Looks like, is in love with, and is completely consumed by Jesus

Of course, no one can be all of these things 100% of the time. But society’s sense of attractiveness and “goals” are completely messed up. 

It is not all about looks. It is not all about reputation. It is not about being perfect. It is not about having the perfect relationships. 

But what is it about?

It’s about actively pursuing Christ every day. It’s about striving to live like Him with every breath you take. It’s about loving others like Christ has called us to. 

In the end, that is what is important. The things that are important to the world have absolutely no value in the eyes of the God. 

So why are we wasting our time trying to be attractive to the world? Being attractive in the way the Lord has called us to be should be our target-each and every day. 

And by the way, 

this is what real relationship goals looks like.